Are You Guilty of this Online Gaming Sin?

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I love multiplayer games. Being able to compete with your friends in a 4 player game of Goldeneye 007 or Bomberman on the N64 is amazing fun. Online connectivity has opened the doors to the world, and we can now test or skills against challengers from around the world, or even form a team with real time communication across the globe.

But the online gaming experience brings a new frustration with it. The absentee gamer. Are you guilty of this online gaming sin?

Asleep at the Controller

 

You know the guy – he sits in game lobbies, but never seems to hit “start.” Their name and avatar show up in game, but no one is at the controls.

If they are on the other team, or you are playing a free for all, they make an easy target. But if the game depends on them to move forward, everyone suffers. I used to run into the problem frequently while playing First Person Shooters (FPS) on my PC.

I also find myself wondering why players in Street Fighter IV set up a lobby only to leave it unattended. And of course, I keep ending up matched to them since they are consider “available.”

What about in real life? Have you ever been speaking with another person, and it feels like they are “not there?” More than just mental “lag,” it is as if they physically there, but they have projected their brain into another body and out for lunch. This goes beyond allegamy, they might as well not even be there.

Maybe they keep checking their phone while you are talking to them, or maybe you keep looking over their shoulder while they are talking to you.

But I know I do the same thing too.

Sometimes someone is talking to me, but I am still thinking about work, my plans for the weekend, what I am going to make for dinner, or long list of games that I own but have no time to play (1st world problems, right?).

Sometimes, it’s pretty obvious when we are not present.

Sure, your body is there, but you mind is in some other place and you are distracted.

Pause. Focus. Unpause.  

 

Like a lot of you, I’m a parent and I have a busy schedule. I work full time, I’m a husband, a father, I am a member of a professional organization, I take my son to karate lessons, I read books, I’m involved with my church, I write, play video games, and spend time with friends…and much more.

We all have very busy lives, but are we present where we are?online gaming waiting for player to join

When we interact with friends, family, customers, speak on the phone, or participate in a meeting, it is vital that we are present.

This means 100% of your attention is in the right place. Often times, when we let our minds wander, we engage in wasteful or even dangerous thinking. We stir up anxiety about things we cannot change or control. In a FPS, that’s a good way to get fragged. Don’t be guilty of this online gaming sin.

You’ve Unlocked a New Achievement: Showing Up

 

Focus has some other great benefits as well. Even if I am feeling in a down mood, I have found that if I put all my focus and energy into what is right in front of me, that if I try to do my very best, I see great results and I feel good too. In fact, this is one of the very best ways to get your mood back on track.

Take some time today to slow down, enjoy the moment, and be present. Time is fleeting, enjoy each moment for what it is. If you put this idea into practice, every relationship you have will be better for it.

And I suspect you will, too.

 What online gaming sin bothers you most?

 

  • Yes, I have definitely been guilty with this. I enjoyed the read. Sometimes we forget that showing up doesn’t always mean showing up. Productivity is key. To answer your question, I’ve been guilty of taking the last hit and getting the experience kill. Some MMO video games allow you to eek in the last hit and ninja loot the monster, thus getting the experience and items even though some other guy spent time and energy tackling the monster.

    This has only happened when I wasn’t really connected or didn’t care too much about the online community. This usually resulted in me getting PKed (player killed). Or even worse camped (killed repeatedly by the guy).

    In real life as a marketing project manager, sometimes I find myself wanting to take credit for the work of others, but then I have to stop myself and think about the long term consequences. I am able to re-frame and give credit where it is due. The great thing about real life is simply making an announcement will give the credit back, whereas in a video game you always have to pay a consequence … even if that consequence is guilt.

    • Samuel – I think you make a great comparison here. It’s all too often easy to become focus on how we can best benefit from a situation of opportunity. Like you describe, sometimes we don’t suffer consequences immediately or until it’s too late to undo the damage.

      Thank you for your comment and sharing your experience.